January 1, 2013
"Peace comes from being aligned with the present moment. Wherever you are, you feel that you are home—because you are home."

—  Eckhart Tolle

December 20, 2012
Martin Seligman: The new era of positive psychology

November 27, 2012

November 27, 2012
Dan Gilbert: The surprising science of happiness

Dan Gilbert talks about the science behind happiness! Amazing!

September 2, 2012
Oprah’s Life Class Season 3 Episode 3 Terrible things Women do to Each other

  • “If it’s not your story to tell, don’t tell it.
  • As women we are conditioned to believe that if they get theirs, there wont be enough for me. (this is what is taught to oppressed people.
  • Men don’t think like that, if they get theirs they don’t care who else got what.
Four ways women hurt eachother:
  1. Betrayal (we betray each other’s trust and confidence)
  2. Gossip
  3. Lies
  4. Competition with each other.

Why do women Betray each other:

  1. Self hatred. (I see in you what I refuse to see in me)
  2. We don’t honor our relationship.
  3. We seek external validation.
  4. We don’t honor ourselves.
  5. We mimic what we’ve seen.
  6. We hold non realistic demands.
  • Truly successful, powerful people want other people to be empowered and successful because they want you to feel the light they are feeling.
  • Best way to achieve is to help someone else get it first, it takes nothing away from you.
  • Self Hatred- I see in you what I refuse to see in myself.
  • Betrayal is a drive by shooting, because it just knocks you off your feet.
Trust yourself to know who you can and Can NOT trust.

Why women gossip:

  1. To get power
  2. It’s an acceptable practice among women.
  3. We don’t recognize the power of the spoken word.
  4. It diverts attention from our own self.
  • Gossip is when you have malice of intent or mindless third party conversations to someone about someone about something you haven’t said to that someone.
  • If you don’t want anybody to know, then don’t tell nobody.
  • When you gossip you hex yourself.
  • Anybody that will bring gossip to you will also take it back. So stay away from gossip.
  • When you gossip it is self hearing because when you do it, it comes back to you. Everything starts with the word. The word is demonstrating a condition of the mind. If its in your mind and comes out of your mouth it will be created.
  • Men gossip but it’s not malicious. They just want to talk and forget it.
  • Men think in headlines, women think in fine print.
  • If you are doing your own life work, you don’t have  time to worry about anyone else.

Five Reasons Women Lie:

  1. Fear of losing love and respect.
  2. Fear of hurting, upsetting or disappointing.
  3. To cover up issues of self-worth.
  4. When we feel threatened.
  5. To be polite.
  • An insecure man will lie about who he is to make himself look better, an insecure woman will lie to make herself look better then you.
  • Comparison is an act of violence of self.
  • “The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.” - Joseph Campbell Believe your worthy.
  • People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
  • Begin within, if it shows up in your life, it’s coming to tell you something about you that you’re acting like you don’t know. Something about yourself, or yourself with God.
  • If you continue to live in the past you will miss the present and won’t have a future.
  • Trust yourself enough to know who you can trust.
  • If you are doing your own life work, you don’t have time to worry about anyone else.
  • Life is a class, some teachers you like, some teachers you don’t like.
  • Anything that follows I am, will come looking for you.
  • Everything you have done to me you have already done to you.
  • Not being a victim, just being a good student.
  • Don’t make permanent decisions off of temporary feelings.

September 2, 2012

August 23, 2012

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August 23, 2012
"If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself.
If you want to eliminate all the suffering in the world,
then eliminate all that is dark and negative in yourself.
Truly the greatest gift you have to give is that of your own self transformation.”
— Lao Tzu"

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August 23, 2012

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August 23, 2012

bloomingbrilliant:

Be Aware of Me Always (Bhagavad Gita Closing Verses)

Readeez!

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August 23, 2012
"If you are depressed you are living in the past.
If you are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living in the present.”
— Lao Tzu"

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August 13, 2012
Blooming Brilliant: Positive Affirmations for Kids

bloomingbrilliant:

I like to teach my daughter about God (universe, source, what have you) and spirituality. Not really religion parse because I do not believe in organized religion at the moment, I am in the middle of figuring out what I actually want to teach my daughter, I most likely will teach her the religion…

August 5, 2012
Oprah’s Life Class Season 3 Episode 2 Hard Conversations

  • Hard conversations are defined as the communication you do not want to have it has to be an important relationship.
  • We should think of confrontation as CAREfrontation, I care enough about you to want this relationship healed.
  • Enhance, heal, grow, advance the relationship these are reasons why hard conversations take place.
  • Tough conversations happen when clarity needs to be gained something that is going to enhance or grow the relationship.
  • One of the things about having a hard conversation is that we often assume things about the other person that aren’t true.

Seven Steps to a hard conversation

  1. Acknowledge
  2. Clarify why having it (heal, grow, expand)
  3. Extend an invitation
  4. Set ground rules (ie. No yelling)
  5. Listen
  6. Be willing to be wrong
  7. Agree on your next steps.

Be okay to not get a resolution.

  • We avoid hard conversations because there is an important relationship that needs to grow or enhance, and its hard because we do not know how the message is going to be received.
  • Acknowledging a conversation is needed and why.
  • Speak from YOUR experience, don’t make things up.
  • Don’t try to fight your position when you do that you miss a lot being said in the conversation, listen, hear what the other person is saying.
  • Take ownership - Key word is I 
  • Listen and hear don’t analyse and think.
  • You don’t get a vote in someone else life.
  • Remove the expectations
  • Stress means that you want the situation to be different then it is.
  • We all have perceptual filters, We hear based on our life experiences.
  • Resolution often evades hard conversations.

August 5, 2012
Oprah’s Life Class Season 3 Episode 1 Growing Beyond Guilt

  • Guilt can hold us hostage.
  • If we are guilty we betray ourselves, we turn our back on ourselves.
  • Letting go of guilt allows healing to begin.
  • Shame is something wrong with who I am
  • Guilt says there is something wrong with what I have done.
  • Guilt is a wasted emotion, what does it serve, the EGO and keeps you in a state of unworthiness and separation from God.

Three reasons We are guilty:

  1. You Knew Better
  2. You caused harm, hurt, or injury
  3. You caused disappointment to someone
  • Substitute guilt with what is real and act to what is needed to move on.
  • Go for the joy.
  • You have not forgiven yourself, because you have not told the truth and you cannot forgive a lie
  • If guilt moves you to correction then act/ learn/ release. If it moves you to depression then forgive and forget. Its not worth you holding on to.
  • Give yourself permission to be okay.
  • Guilt is ungodly, make conscious choices, replace guilt with taking responsibility, own it.
  • Good or bad everything you do serves you. Consciously or unconsciously.
  • “If you argue against reality, you will suffer.” Byron Katie
  • If the reality is that you are not happy where you are, take responsibility or leave. Don’t stay and be miserable.
  • Take responsibility on how you respond.
  • Own your stuff, Don’t place things on others, turn the spotlight on you.
  • For many people guilt is a hustle and racket, oh I am so guilty, they stay in the story.
  • Oftentimes, what we learn with life class, is that your are not even guilty about what you think you are guilty about.
  • There’s an underbelly, we don’t investigate the root and the cause.
  • You can acknowledge that you caused hurt or harm to someone but that doesn’t mean you feel guilt.
  • Guilt is a wasted emotion.
  • Guilt can hold you down from growth.
  • Don’t look back, you’re not going that way. Look ahead, drop your baggage and move ahead.
  • The ego always requires punishment.
  • The reason you deserve a second chance is because you are here and you have it.
  • You have not forgiven yourself because you have not told the truth and you cannot forgive a lie.
  • Understand the difference between what happened and your / the story.
  • There is an intention in every statement we make.
  • Replace ego with the truth. The truth always has love and God.
  • Replace guilt with responsibility and with conscious choice.
  • Go to a place where you were not nurtured and Heal.
  • Why do we identify so strongly with our cultural stories? We stay addicted to our ancestors stories and stay stuck.
  • Give yourself permission to be okay! Guilt doesn’t serve you.
  • Take responsibility for your truth, make a new truth, and make amends.
  • Whenever you argue against reality, you suffer (you don’t have to be okay with it or like it, you have to accept it)
  • I am human and I make mistakes and I give myself permission to forgive myself.

July 29, 2012
Lifeclass Tonight on OWN!

Lifeclass Tonight on OWN!